How to Weather Big Transitions

My son starts at a brand-new school tomorrow. At 4.5, he’s starting preschool later than a bunch of his peers, but it was the right decision for our family to keep him in his sweet, small daycare for an extra year.

These kinds of transitions are part of parenting for all of us, whether it’s a move to a new school, a new home, or to becoming a sibling instead of an only child. Here are a few tips for weathering these kinds transitions with respect for your child’s process and your own.

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The Four Keys to Limit Setting

In a recent post about limit setting, I argued that, for our passionate little movers, limits are like the railings on a beautiful yet precarious dance floor.  We need them to provide safety and security as our kids explore the world and their place in it.

In this post I want to explore in greater detail how limit setting can look, through the lens of a beautiful path for living and relating to others called The Four-Fold Way®.

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What is Respectful Parenting (or RIE®), Anyway?

You may have heard about the Educaring® Approach, or RIE®—sometimes called “respectful parenting”—on the playground or from a friend who is a parent. But what is RIE® really all about? Is it right for your family?

Magda Gerber, who founded RIE®—which stands for Resources for Infant Educarers—believed that babies are whole, capable people deserving of our respect from the moment they are born.

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The Most Important Repairs

When my son was a few months old, a friend and her daughter came to visit us. They arrived while my son was napping, and I took them into our kitchen to offer them something to drink.

Without realizing it, I left the baby monitor—which was usually attached to my hip—in the front room. We got to chatting and, after a little while, my friend suddenly said, “do you hear him?” My son was screaming his head off upstairs.

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