Because supporting families is so important to me, I want to share a few thoughts with you about where my heart is now as white people wake up more and more to the fact of entrenched racism—and how deeply destructive it is to families and communities of color and to our society. I want you to know where I stand, and to ask for your help.
Read more3 Tools for Managing Your Anger as a Parent
Most of us have the experience of feeling very angry at our kids at least occasionally. And, more than any other feeling we experience—in parenting or in other aspects of our lives—anger seems to evoke the most shame in us.
Here are a few thoughts about this particularly intense feeling, and how you might begin (or continue) to work with it, especially now.
Read moreWhen Old Hurts Get in the Way of Our Parenting
I often think about something a very thoughtful dad of two said to me during a coaching session last year. We were talking about his transition home after long days at work, and how hard he tried to come into the house with an open heart and mind.
Things had been very challenging with his 5-year-old son, and he worried about what he might encounter when he opened the door. He worried too about how triggering his son’s behavior often felt.
He tried to shed his day on the commute home, and plug back into family life with energy. But, he said, as soon as he stepped through the door, he felt as if he were “back in the lion’s den again, ready for war.”
Read moreThe Most Important Repairs
Her are some simple, respectful parenting tools that I recommend when you find yourself behaving like the parent you don’t want to be—either by accident or because you can’t seem to stop yourself.
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